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Short Spurts Toward Success – Week 3

Are you enjoying the Challenge? Have you been keeping up? I know it’s hard to do something like this over the holidays, but the rewards are huge. So, whether you are on target, you are just joining in, or have fallen a wee bit behind, join us on the wagon. The more, the merrier!

Just to review the first two Challenges:

Challenge #1. Do a quick straighten up of the house before bed each night.)

Challenge #2. Put away clean dishes. Set the table/prepare for the next day’s breakfast. )

Now that you have those as a bit of a routine, do #1 and # 2 each night and add:

Challenge #3.

Be sure no dirty dishes are left undone. Fill Dishwasher. Dump the old coffee grounds. Add fresh coffee for the morning.

Ahhhhh…Let us know how it feels to enter your kitchen each morning since you began to get things orderly before bed each night. Doesn’t the day start so much better now?

Congratulations!

Congratulations to Shelly Cantrell at Her Front Porch! Shelly won this week’s drawing for an autographed copy of  Kim Avery’s book, Uniquely You: Discover Your Life Purpose. You could be next!

Make sure you come back often this week and leave your comments so you can be entered in the drawing – every comment gives you another entry!

Filed under: Challenges — Tags: , , — Pam Taylor @ 3:08 pm

Short Spurts Toward Success – Week 2

The Busy Mom’s 4 Week Challenge

Ready for Challenge #2? How did you do with Week 1?

Challenge #1 – Before bed each night, do a quick straighten up of the house. No matter how tired you are!

And now that you have that as a bit of a routine, continue with it each night and add:

Challenge: #2

Before bed each night, put away clean dishes from sink dish drainer or from dishwasher.  Set the table/prepare for the next day’s breakfast.

Let us know how much better the morning goes when you have a head start on your day. Be sure to leave a comment below to be entered in the drawing! You can even come back and update us with your progress each day (please do!) for even more chances to win 🙂

Congratulations to Cheryl Cope for winning Challenge #1!! She will receive a copy of “Uniquely You: Discover Your Life Purpose” by Kim Avery — and you could be next!!

Filed under: Challenges — Tags: , , — Pam Taylor @ 11:13 am

Short Spurts Toward Success! Week 1

The Busy Mom’s 4 Week Challenge

We know that as a busy mom, life can get overwhelming. But the truth is that there are ways to get a handle on all that overwhelm.

One way is to make small incremental changes, but to make them consistently. And that’s what this Challenge is all about. Over the next weeks there will be 4 Challenges to implement, spaced out a week apart to allow you to incorporate them into your routine.

Challenge #1

Do a quick straighten up of the house every night before bed, no matter how tired you are.

Then… tell us how good it feels the next day when you get up to a [relatively] neat home!

When you make a comment, you are automatically entered into the weekly drawing that extends through the 4 weeks of the Challenge. You can leave a comment each day about how you are doing on this week’s challenge – each comment is another entry in the drawing. Winners will be chosen using www.Random.org, and announced the next week.

Now, what’s the prize? For today, it’s a secret, but you’re going to love it! Before this week is out, the prize will be announced along with a special event pertaining to it. It will be a real treat for you, whether you are a mom, a busy mom, or an overwhelmed mom.

Stay tuned and join in the excitement!

Filed under: Challenges — Tags: , , — Pam Taylor @ 12:28 pm

Cranksgiving Holidays

Whether you celebrate holidays alone or with family, what has been your experience? Have you wished things could be different? Better?

As you think TOWARD the upcoming holiday, what are you feeling? What pressure are you experiencing? What do you fear? What do you hope for? What is your heart telling you?

I know I used to dread holidays because I was often disappointed. I had expectations about how I wanted things to go and how I wanted people to act toward each other. But lately, things have changed drastically for the better. I’ve had an attitude shift!

Do any of these words describe the mood of you or others during holidays?
** Cranky
** Inconvenienced
** Cramped
** Ungrateful
** Grumpy
** Tired
** Overworked
** Overwhelmed
** Anxious
** Disappointed
** Discouraged

What if you decided to do what I have begun to do? To CHOOSE JOY???
What if you prayerfully turn to your Father God and ask Him to help you choose a new way of handling holidays?

What if little by little, you begin to turn your cranksgiving attitude into times of gratitude for the small things…choosing an attitude of thanksgiving…choosing gratitude for what is good and right and lovely in your world, rather than focusing on what is overwhelming you or hurting you.

If you have found this attitude shift to be true in your own life, would you take time to post here? It could help someone else have a much better experience going through their next holiday. Who knows whose heart you might encourage because you took the time to share. Bless you bunches!

Filed under: Holidays,MomCouragement,Spiritual Life — Tags: , , , — Pam Taylor @ 12:11 pm

Don’t Quit! Joseph… A Story of Success… via Blood, Sweat and Tears

Have you heard a version of Anything worthwhile is worth fighting for. Worth waiting for?

I know that’s not a happy thought that success comes via blood, sweat and tears, but it seems especially necessary to say that today. The media would have us believe that we “deserve” success. When we get a college degree, we “deserve” a job. And not just a job, but a job starting at the top. Because we are “qualified”, right? Isn’t that the way it works? Or maybe we believe that when we start our own business, the clients/customers will flock to us. Because we did the right things, so of course we will realize our dreams complete and full…immediately. Right? That when we do the right thing, all falls into place. Blog posts tell us that. Facebook and Twitter posts all claim that if we buy their program, we will get skinny, we will grow new hair on that bald spot, and we will be able to run a marathon if we eat the right energy bar. That’s what we hear from all forms of media. But…is it true???

My inspiration today is the story of Joseph in the Bible. Joseph had a dream. Have you had a dream? Are you continuing to pursue it, or did you quit when it got hard or took too long?

You know the story. Joseph was his Dad’s favorite. And his brothers knew that. It was way too obvious. So, when they got a chance, they got even. Not with the Dad who chose him as favorite, but with Joseph. They tried to eliminate their problem. They wanted him out of the way. The only problem was, even though the Dad thought Joseph was dead, Joseph was STILL his favorite. The empty space at the table was NOT occupied by another. His Dad’s heart was very sad. And none of the other sons became the favorite in his place. So what did they accomplish by taking matters into their own hands?

What about Joseph? At the hands of his brothers, Joseph suffered bullying, abuse, betrayal and great loss; and at the hands of others, he suffered slavery.

He waited. (What else could he do under the circumstances?) But somehow, Joseph never seemed to see himself as “under the circumstances”. He believed in a BIG GOD. THE big God!

Then, he began to find the Favor of the Lord. And he kept his integrity. He faithfully walked honorably, even when tempted to take the lower road to destruction.

He took the higher road to the Favor of God. Those appointed to keep him in line saw clearly God’s favor or him and they appointed him to positions of leadership. And they indirectly received God’s Favor through Joseph. But betrayals and disappointments continued. And he remained a man of integrity. No matter how much power he was given, he remained a man of God. A man faithful to the Lord’s ways.

And the final outcome? Remember his outrageous dream that his brothers hated him for? Hated him enough to try to get rid of him forever…

Well, that dream came true and they literally owed their lives to him…the one they had sought to destroy was later their rescuer.

Blood, sweat and tears…walking that faithful life with our eyes on the Lord of the blood, sweat and tears…not giving up…but going forward…one step at a time. Little by little. Trusting the God of the outcome.  A heart on fire for Him.

Now THAT is “success”! That is God’s definition of “success” and that is where the joy lies. Peace that passes understanding. Don’t quit. Press on. Press through. Keep looking up to the Creator of real success…via blood, sweat and tears!

Easy? No! But ask Joseph someday: “Was it worth it?” And I have a feeling he will shout out, “Yes! Undoubtedly, YES!”

Do you have a dream you haven’t yet followed through on?


Drudge. Drudge

Have you ever felt like something is missing? Like there ought to be more to life than just getting up, doing your daily tasks, going to bed, getting up, and starting all over again. Drudge. Drudge. Same old, same old stuff. Day, after day, after day. What happened to the spring in your step? Where did it go? WHEN did it go? Isn’t there more to life than THIS???

Isn’t it time you did something that will help you move out of this dullness and toward that “thing” you used to be so excited about? That you’ve just never quite followed through on…for whatever reason…and yet it still kinda haunts you? It just won’t “go away.”

You know what I’m talking about. It’s that idea that is always lurking around in the background of your mind. Remember now??? Do you feel a bit of pounding of your heart as you think about it? About what “could have been”? What sidetracked you?

I got sidetracked by college, marriage, a job, a home, children, and even the mission field. All good things, but I always had that lingering feeling that something was missing…something that “defined” me. Something that made me…ME.

Have you ever felt that way?

I first had a dream like that in 1978. And then it got buried. By “life”.

Then…FINALLY…in 2008…I hired a Christian Life Coach and asked him to teach me how to do what he did. It was a new beginning for me. I am now my own boss. And I can choose my own hours and even better than that is the fact that I now get to breathe life into the dreams of others. Just like my coach did for me! He held that vision for me when it would get a bit weak and seemed far away. He held it for me and he encouraged me until the dream is now a reality and I am now a Christian Life Coach, too. Friends and family encourage, but any decisions we make affect them, too, so they can’t be unbiased. Their OWN desires get in the way.

Why not do what I did…and follow through on YOUR dream until it becomes a reality.

I’d like to make it a bit easier for you to follow through on that dream toward a new beginning. Commit to three months of coaching (October, November, and December), and enjoy the third month FREE.  (That is a $200 gift. Think of it as a Christmas gift from me to you. I’m handing you $200 toward your dream! If you don’t take advantage of it, it’s like you are just throwing away $200! And that would be sad! You see, no matter what we are doing…dieting…exercising…or learning to move forward in any new direction…it usually takes at least three months to begin to get a consistently forward movement toward that dream to the point that it feels comfortable and “normal” to you.

Maybe your dream is to start your own business like me. Maybe it’s to finally finish that education path you started on so many years ago. Maybe it is to figure out how to get past “overwhelm” in your life. Maybe your dream is to live well on less. Maybe it’s to become the wife that your husband always dreamed of, rather than the overwhelmed, weary, grumpy wretch that meets him at the door each evening. Maybe it’s….well, YOU fill in the blank. What is it that will make you feel more whole? More like God intended?

Don’t delay. This “gift” is a time-sensitive offer; so, I look forward to hearing from you soon. October will be here before we know it. Let’s talk together about that thing that has been in the back of your mind for all these months or years. I’d LOVE to hear what has been “dogging” at your heels. Contact me through the website at www.loavesandfishescoaching.com and we can arrange a FREE call.  I’ll be happy to answer any of your questions…even my shoe size. 🙂 Through our conversation together,  you can decide if coaching is right for you. AND we can both determine together if we would be a good match…a good team.

By moving forward beginning in October and November, you’ll then receive the month of December ($200 value) FREE. It will be my gift to you. FREE!

I love helping people with new beginnings. And I love giving gifts. Let me bless you this way so you can begin your journey toward new beginnings, just like I did a few years ago!

You don’t want to wait as long as I did to find your true fulfillment in walking in your strengths!


Legendary Super Hero.

My Dad was a legendary super hero. He was also a single parent. That’s part of what makes him a super hero. Parenting is tough. Single parenting is tougher!

He used to say, “When my ship comes in, with my luck, I’ll be at the airport!” Then he always laughed! (My Mom’s medical bills had undoubtedly taken a toll on the bank account.) In my eyes, my Dad was a rich man. Not from wealth, position, or possessions. Rather, he was rich with integrity and steady resolve.

I knew I was loved. I knew what his values were. He lived his values. He was his values. He was deeply respected in his community.

I also knew things I could count on about him.

  • He always straightened up the house before bed.
  • He’d be there waiting for me when I got home from school.
  • He showed up no matter where I was when I was with my friends. (I liked that.)
  • He cared enough to be sure I was safe. (My friends were jealous.)
  • He never forgot a holiday.

(Whether Valentines Day, birthday, or whatever holiday…there was always a card and a gift on the kitchen table waiting for me when I came down for breakfast.)

He wasn’t a hugger, and he didn’t speak his love much, but his actions spoke volumes. I felt safe, secure and loved.

I’ve been wondering something lately…

When we read and hear the dogma about what parents should be, should do, should not do, etc., do we lose something precious and important by not rather focusing on and appreciating what our Moms and Dads did well? Does our “idea” of the “ideal” bring us into a continual state of disappointment to the point of dis-honor/anger/ & distance?

What if we step back a bit and take an honest look. If this were someone else’s parent, would we be jealous…as my friends were of me because my Dad was so predictable, available, and “protective”?

“Knowing what we are called to do is a greater blessing than striking it rich.” (Turning Point devo. 8/16/12)

My Dad knew he was called to be a single Dad when my Mom died…and he did it really, really well!

Thanks, Dad! You will always be my super hero. I miss you terribly.

 


The Bridegroom. R.S.V.P.

Headline: Jesus is getting married!

The courtship has been bumpy and long. There have been dangers of a broken engagement along the way. But any day now, the wedding will be a reality!

The wedding has been announced and the invitations have been sent. Have you responded to your invitation? It is not too late…yet…

This will be a marriage that will never drift into the mundane. You will never be bored. You will never be separated by divorce or death.

Take some time to read His Love Letter to you — the Bible — the Word of God. Get to know the Bridegroom. Start with making a list of His Greatness…His attributes. Note how He relates to His created ones. Underline. Highlight. Pay close attention. Ask Him for understanding. Begin to make a list of what is most meaningful to you as you read. I suggest that you start toward the back of the book…in the New Testament.

Try this for starters: Make the next four Sundays special. Each Sunday read one of the four Gospels  (Matthew, Mark, Luke & John) so you can get to know the Bridegroom. That’s called the 4 Gospels. And it’s where you will read of His invitation to you to join Him forever. The more your read, the more you will understand the depth of His love for you!

Say yes to His invitation to you! And begin the journey toward maturity as His someday soon Bride. Little by little, growing, maturing, and understanding what it means to be a “follower” devoted to the Bridegroom. As He already is devoted to you. He longs to have you say yes! He’s done His part…now it’s your turn to respond. R.S.V.P. But that is only the beginning. The rest of your life and on into eternity will be spent walking together with Him…side-by-side. Never looking back. There is no one you can trust more than the Heavenly Bridegroom. Jesus, the Christ. The Lord.

Let me know if I can help you toward that journey of becoming all you were created to be. Don’t settle for less than that…

Filed under: Spiritual Life — Tags: , , , , — Pam Taylor @ 5:29 pm

Especially for Moms

In today’s broken world, women are longing for warm relationships. This study is designed to help us avoid being miserable comforters-like Job’s friends-and, instead, become “God with skin on” to others. Paul told Titus to train women so that they, in turn, could train others. Preparing women before they connect with one another leads to more supportive, grace-giving relationships. Verna equips women to minister to others by first helping us to:

  • Recognize it’s right to take care of ourselves
  • Identify and correct twisted thinking
  • Learn how to draw appropriate boundaries
  • Take steps to resolve conflicts
  • Know how to listen and ask helpful questions
  • Learn to communicate understanding

This dynamic study is offered to Moms as a virtual telebridge class, meeting for 15 weeks over the phone. In addition to the weekly virtual class sessions, there is a book and workbook, a private Facebook Group, and recordings of the classes.

Here are the details:

Mom-2-Mom
15 week virtual telebridge study.
Tuesdays, 6:30 – 8:00 p.m Central Time
August 7 – November 13, 2012

Cost: $47/month.

(There’s an early registration discount:
so…if you are registered by
August 2, it is only $37/month)

Here’s what one participant of the study said:

This is my first virtual book study, and I wasn’t sure how I would like it, but it has been absolutely great. Pam’s wisdom and gentle humor combined with Verna Birkey’s powerful book, “Women Connecting with Women,” are liberating me from self-sabotaging patterns I didn’t even know I had and empowering me with new insights into my relationships with other women. This is a study – the book, workbook, and my notes – that I will go back to for years to come. I would highly recommend doing this study with Pam Taylor at your first opportunity. It is an investment in yourself, your relationships, and God’s Kingdom that will bear fruit for eternity.

Susan Fleming
Winter Haven, Florida

The Book and Workbook Details:

Women Connecting With Women, by Verna Birkey – Equipping women for friend-to-friend support and mentoring.

You’ll need both the book AND the workbook, which can be purchased at this Amazon link (for under $30).

Questions? Email:  pam@loavesandfishescoaching.com
To register contact me here:  pam@loavesandfishescoaching.com

If you aren’t a Mom that could benefit from this study right now, please pass this on and bless someone you love… You might even consider gifting them the tuition or book!

And other participants said:

There is so much content to this study. Verna Birkey has the ability to educate the participant in an understandable manner and then offer stories to solidify the learning. The exercises in the book are very helpful. I learned a lot of very practical tools that I will be able to implement when the need arises! Thanks Pam!

Starr Benjamin

I love this study. It was meant for women, but it is true for everyone. I would recommend this study for EVERY woman, regardless of age. It will change the way you look at your world.

Tereasa Jones


Grumblings. A 4th of July Story.

Every year since I moved downtown, I’ve dreaded the 4th of July. It was high on my list of things I had to just “get through”. Survival of the fittest mentality took over…which meant THEY always win! And I always lose!

“THEY” were the carnival people. They came into our town in the dark of night and disrupted–no, prevented–my sleep for literally the entire night. They set everything up only one block from my apartment building. By morning I could see the Farris Wheel through the trees and the merry-go-round at the end of the alley, along with all the fast and furious rides looming and blocking the sky from my view. Let the festivities begin!

It’s a really big deal — 4th of July Independence Day here in this town. The town doubles or triples in size the week of July 4th. All week long the loud music blared and destroyed my peace. And it got even louder after dark, when I wanted to sleep. In my mind, I felt I had a right to have my town back. It didn’t feel safe when they were here. The carnival brought a lot of strangers to town. People arrived from far and wide.

Every year I grumbled. Every year I murmured. Because even the day they left town they would tear everything down and pack it up all through the night. Another night of absolutely NO sleep. Grumble! Murmur!

Every year I felt superior, but I didn’t call it that. (I’m not sure what label my Pharisee mindset put on my feelings to justify them). I just knew that my comfort was infringed upon and sleep was impossible. (Oswald Chambers said, “Pride is the deification of self.” OUCH!)

Then…there was a change…I was stunned…God turned my murmurings to gladness! Let me tell you how that happened…
Last year — 2011 — something changed. I changed. Actually, God changed me. Unexpectedly…without warning, God showed up and showed me His heart. And then He showed me my heart in comparison! UGH! It was not a pretty sight!!!

He gave me His heart for the people that actually BLESS our town with the carnival every year. What’s going on here?? What did I just say?? Let me tell you how that mindset shift happened…

The youth of my church (Zion Lutheran Church in Clear Lake, IA) made yummy & nourishing individual breakfast meals for the set-up crew on the morning after the all night set-up of the carnival. And the youth let me help them put it all together into bags. Then, we went to the carnival area and hand-carried a meal to each person individually…along with coffee and/or bottled water. I had a blast! We all had a blast! It was so much fun! And…The carnival crew were so grateful.

The youth and youth leaders taught me…no…they modeled something to this “grown up” (I use the term loosely). They modeled TRUE Christian love! It was their vision and hard work that made it happen.

I have more stories to tell you sometime about that week! It was a week of mental shift, spiritual growth, and a transformed mind!

I will tell you that I have some new friends & mentors since that day. And I will tell you that they (the youth, youth leaders, and the carnival crew) modeled grace and mercy and true caring for “one another” for me. I learned a lot that week and it has stayed with me all year and you know what? For the first time…I can’t wait to hear the all-night-sounds of the carnival setting up, because that will mean more opportunities to learn what it really means to truly live in Christian community.

Yup! Last year I also discovered that the Carnival is owned and operated by Christians who run a “tight ship” and that they purposefully model and mentor the Christian walk to their employees. (BTW, we are again making breakfasts in a bag to take to the hard workers that bring the carnival to our town for the 4th of July. Can’t wait!)

I’m so glad that God is a patient Father because I have a lot to learn! ‘Scuze me while I go wash the egg off my face. I’ve been busted by God! Again! and you know what? It FEELS like LOVE! Here’s what God says about it…

“So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you. Take your everyday, ordinary life–your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking around life–and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for Him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit in without thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what He wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-informed maturity in you.” (Romans 12:1,2 THE MESSAGE translation)

God the Father loves us enough to take the time to mentor us toward maturity. And when we are His, that feels like LOVE!

I don’t want to grow old without growing up, do you?

Filed under: Holidays,Spiritual Life — Tags: , , , — Pam Taylor @ 4:20 pm

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