Pam Taylor - Christian Life Coach

Are You a Curmudgeon?

file000495201931-morguefile-kitchens-smallI once heard a story about a mom who went to the kitchen to get a drink of water, only to find that the kids had taken the liquid dish soap and squirted it all over the floor. They had removed their shoes and were sliding back and forth like it was an ice rink. They were laughing and having a blast!! Lots of fun! UNTIL they saw her there in the doorway. They stopped in their tracks, looking at each other. TERRIFIED as they waited to see what her response would be.

So, there she stood with her hands on her hips observing the situation and trying to decide what to do. She saw their delight. She heard their laughter. But…she also saw what they had done.

She decided that it looked like so much fun that she took off her shoes and slid across the floor in her socks. She threw her head back in laughter. She was really enjoying herself. The kids couldn’t believe it! Then…suddenly…she stopped.

She looked them straight in the eyes and said,  “That was fun! Now LET’S clean this up.”

I’m pretty sure she told them not to do it again, but she understood how fun it was and it was not EVIL or SINFUL what they were doing. It was not DEFIANT. They didn’t know. So she enjoyed the moment but let them know that there were consequences to their decisions. BUT she helped them clean it up. That way they stayed on task. 

Isn’t that exactly how God is with us? He enjoys us and yet He gently guides us back to Truth. He tells us the rules and then He guides us into following the rules. The blessing comes in the obeying. For our kids and for us.

It’s so much more fun to embrace and enjoy life and to appreciate the differences of others, than to be a curmudgeon. You and your child/children are each very different. Choose to enjoy the differences. It is most definitely a choice. It probably won’t come naturally.  

And yet…you still have to be the Mom…the adult…in the relationship. Yes, of course, the adult makes rules and they also keep them. But…don’t forget to remember that the child-like things they do are normal. They are learning how things work and what is acceptable and what is not. They are experimenting.

They are also teaching us to lighten up a bit. And that, my dear sweet mom friend, is a good thing! A very good thing!

Hope this helps…

Filed under: MomCouragement — Tags: , , , — Pam Taylor @ 11:04 am

Having a Tough Day?

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“Unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.” — John 12:24

That pretty well sums up parenting…and especially motherhood. Motherhood is so daily!

Dying to self. The single seed dying to self for the greater good…the good crop. Meaning…when we truly surrender our rights to the Lord, beautiful things begin to happen within our hearts. And in our families.

In his very first sentence in the book, The Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren states a Biblical Truth: “It’s not about you.”

That single statement reminds me to get my priorities in alignment with God’s. It’s NOT about me. It’s ALL about HIM!!! The LORD! If there is a Lord (and there is) then there must be servants who do His bidding. (That’s you and me.)

The Small Catechism states “the chief purpose of man is to love God and enjoy Him forever.” We enjoy God when we obey Him. We obey Him because we believe Him when He gives us directions how to live a life which is pleasing to Him and is joy-filled for us.

And WHEN we surrender to that, He gives us His strength, in our weakness! When we are weak, then He is strong! Hang in there, Mom!

You are loved! And yes…it *is* worth it!

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This has been a word of encouragement from:

The MomCourager™
Pam Taylor, Christian Life Coach

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Filed under: MomCouragement — Tags: , , , , — Pam Taylor @ 8:24 pm

A Spring/Summer Special Treat Prepared Just for You!

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heart-my-coachWhat are your plans for making this your most memorable summer ever?

  1. Have you had a dream but not yet acted on it? What’s holding you back?
  2. Do you long to change something in your life, but wonder why nothing you’ve tried so far has worked?
  3. Are you wondering why life seems so difficult and so everyday? Maybe you even think something is WRONG with you.
  4. Do you wonder why you see things so differently from those that you live with, work with, worship & serve with?

Spend part of your summer with me (virtually) and you will:

  1. Wake up each day with eager anticipation for what the day holds
  2. Stop comparing yourself with others
  3. Use your gifts and strengths joyfully and effectively
  4. Realize Creator God’s design for you was meant to bring you joy

I would consider it an honor to walk this part of your journey with you.

Sign up by May 1st for a 25% Discount.

The Spring/Summer Package includes:

  • Leading From Your Strengths (LFYS) assessment
  • Two-hour phone LFYS consultation
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Why should you do this for yourself? Because God loves you and He wants you to know why He created you the way He did and how to be the best YOU you can be!

Want to read more about Leading From Your Strengths? I’ve written several blogs about the topic. Go to www.loavesandfishescoaching.com/blog and use the search function to search for Lead From Your Strengths. There’s a IV-part series you might enjoy.

Ready to sign up? Have Questions?  Email me and let’s get started!


What’s Wrong With This Picture?

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Put yourself in this Mom’s place. Traveling alone with a baby.

Look closely and then tell me…What’s “wrong” with this picture? Maybe “wrong” isn’t the “right” word. Maybe “unusual” is the right word.

I’m pretty sure this would not be what I would look like if I were at a major airport, ready to travel a number of hours with my baby on a plane…ALONE! What about you?

Here is what is (wrong/unusual) = remarkable: She is smiling! She is a real, live person and she is smiling! And at peace! How did that happen?

Lindsay sent me this picture. It inspired me so much that I asked her if I could use it on my website. I figured if it inspired me, it would inspire you, too. (I’m passionate about helping Overwhelmed Moms find their way out of the fog. And this picture speaks volumes!!!) And then…when I heard her response, I just had to share it with you right away.

Because…here’s something else that is remarkable about this Mom: Her response was “Yes…but…I wasn’t overwhelmed.” WOW! She wasn’t overwhelmed??? Astounding!!!

What do you suppose was Lindsay’s secret?

Lindsay had a plan. She had spent the days leading up to this day (as she prepared to move to another continent in a few short weeks) speaking God’s promises out loud to herself as she packed and as she took care of her baby. Her husband was far away…on another continent because of his work. It was unavoidable. This was a fog she was going to have to find her way through without her husband’s help. She wanted to be victorious, even though her life was in an uproar! But you would not know it to look at her, would you?! She had chosen the HIGHER ROAD.

Life is a series of choices. Flesh or Spirit. Which will rule? Which will we “feed”? The Spirit or the flesh?

This Mom had chosen to listen to praise music even though the things in her life were in chaos. While helpers were shouting questions at her. While she had to make a ton of last minute decisions. While she had to remember to eat. While she had to remember to change the diapers and nurse the baby. While movers came and went. While her apartment looked more like a war-zone than a home…with all the sorting and packing materials all around. Lindsay had chosen to have God on the throne, rather than let her feelings rule her. She did what she could do. She fed her Spirit Soul food and it nourished her to the point that her countenance would actually shine! You can see that for yourself!

She did what she could and left the rest to God. He likes that! 🙂

lindsay-baby-cropShe is an amazing woman. She is one of my favorite people and I wanted to share a bit of her story with you. I pray it inspires you to take the time to stop, drop and pray. To remember that nothing is too big for God to handle. IF we let Him.  She made a conscious choice to meditate on the promises of God. To feed her soul with music. Not just any music. She chose music that nourishes and exalts God. Proving: You definitely are what you “eat”. His Word (the Bible) is her nourishment. AND…Praises helped her rise above her circumstances. God has a plan and she followed it. And this is the result!

Please take time to comment and let us know what this has stirred up in you. And please also share stories of times when God’s Spirit has ruled and you, too, have been victorious in a difficult circumstance. We would love to hear from you. And as Lindsay prepares to move from her familiar surroundings, your remarks could be perfect timing and have the same effect on her to encourage her to keep looking UP because GOD is BIG.

“My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me, and to accomplish His work,” Jesus said. (John 4:34 NAS)

{{Lindsay Nichols Estes has a message for women in transition. She walks her talk and more often than not, she comes forth trusting God’s promises. She knows the secret of success. If you are in transition, and want a coach to walk through it with you, you can find her here: http://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaynicholsestes }}


Cranksgiving Holidays

Whether you celebrate holidays alone or with family, what has been your experience? Have you wished things could be different? Better?

As you think TOWARD the upcoming holiday, what are you feeling? What pressure are you experiencing? What do you fear? What do you hope for? What is your heart telling you?

I know I used to dread holidays because I was often disappointed. I had expectations about how I wanted things to go and how I wanted people to act toward each other. But lately, things have changed drastically for the better. I’ve had an attitude shift!

Do any of these words describe the mood of you or others during holidays?
** Cranky
** Inconvenienced
** Cramped
** Ungrateful
** Grumpy
** Tired
** Overworked
** Overwhelmed
** Anxious
** Disappointed
** Discouraged

What if you decided to do what I have begun to do? To CHOOSE JOY???
What if you prayerfully turn to your Father God and ask Him to help you choose a new way of handling holidays?

What if little by little, you begin to turn your cranksgiving attitude into times of gratitude for the small things…choosing an attitude of thanksgiving…choosing gratitude for what is good and right and lovely in your world, rather than focusing on what is overwhelming you or hurting you.

If you have found this attitude shift to be true in your own life, would you take time to post here? It could help someone else have a much better experience going through their next holiday. Who knows whose heart you might encourage because you took the time to share. Bless you bunches!

Filed under: Holidays,MomCouragement,Spiritual Life — Tags: , , , — Pam Taylor @ 12:11 pm

Don’t Quit! Joseph… A Story of Success… via Blood, Sweat and Tears

Have you heard a version of Anything worthwhile is worth fighting for. Worth waiting for?

I know that’s not a happy thought that success comes via blood, sweat and tears, but it seems especially necessary to say that today. The media would have us believe that we “deserve” success. When we get a college degree, we “deserve” a job. And not just a job, but a job starting at the top. Because we are “qualified”, right? Isn’t that the way it works? Or maybe we believe that when we start our own business, the clients/customers will flock to us. Because we did the right things, so of course we will realize our dreams complete and full…immediately. Right? That when we do the right thing, all falls into place. Blog posts tell us that. Facebook and Twitter posts all claim that if we buy their program, we will get skinny, we will grow new hair on that bald spot, and we will be able to run a marathon if we eat the right energy bar. That’s what we hear from all forms of media. But…is it true???

My inspiration today is the story of Joseph in the Bible. Joseph had a dream. Have you had a dream? Are you continuing to pursue it, or did you quit when it got hard or took too long?

You know the story. Joseph was his Dad’s favorite. And his brothers knew that. It was way too obvious. So, when they got a chance, they got even. Not with the Dad who chose him as favorite, but with Joseph. They tried to eliminate their problem. They wanted him out of the way. The only problem was, even though the Dad thought Joseph was dead, Joseph was STILL his favorite. The empty space at the table was NOT occupied by another. His Dad’s heart was very sad. And none of the other sons became the favorite in his place. So what did they accomplish by taking matters into their own hands?

What about Joseph? At the hands of his brothers, Joseph suffered bullying, abuse, betrayal and great loss; and at the hands of others, he suffered slavery.

He waited. (What else could he do under the circumstances?) But somehow, Joseph never seemed to see himself as “under the circumstances”. He believed in a BIG GOD. THE big God!

Then, he began to find the Favor of the Lord. And he kept his integrity. He faithfully walked honorably, even when tempted to take the lower road to destruction.

He took the higher road to the Favor of God. Those appointed to keep him in line saw clearly God’s favor or him and they appointed him to positions of leadership. And they indirectly received God’s Favor through Joseph. But betrayals and disappointments continued. And he remained a man of integrity. No matter how much power he was given, he remained a man of God. A man faithful to the Lord’s ways.

And the final outcome? Remember his outrageous dream that his brothers hated him for? Hated him enough to try to get rid of him forever…

Well, that dream came true and they literally owed their lives to him…the one they had sought to destroy was later their rescuer.

Blood, sweat and tears…walking that faithful life with our eyes on the Lord of the blood, sweat and tears…not giving up…but going forward…one step at a time. Little by little. Trusting the God of the outcome.  A heart on fire for Him.

Now THAT is “success”! That is God’s definition of “success” and that is where the joy lies. Peace that passes understanding. Don’t quit. Press on. Press through. Keep looking up to the Creator of real success…via blood, sweat and tears!

Easy? No! But ask Joseph someday: “Was it worth it?” And I have a feeling he will shout out, “Yes! Undoubtedly, YES!”

Do you have a dream you haven’t yet followed through on?


Legendary Super Hero.

My Dad was a legendary super hero. He was also a single parent. That’s part of what makes him a super hero. Parenting is tough. Single parenting is tougher!

He used to say, “When my ship comes in, with my luck, I’ll be at the airport!” Then he always laughed! (My Mom’s medical bills had undoubtedly taken a toll on the bank account.) In my eyes, my Dad was a rich man. Not from wealth, position, or possessions. Rather, he was rich with integrity and steady resolve.

I knew I was loved. I knew what his values were. He lived his values. He was his values. He was deeply respected in his community.

I also knew things I could count on about him.

  • He always straightened up the house before bed.
  • He’d be there waiting for me when I got home from school.
  • He showed up no matter where I was when I was with my friends. (I liked that.)
  • He cared enough to be sure I was safe. (My friends were jealous.)
  • He never forgot a holiday.

(Whether Valentines Day, birthday, or whatever holiday…there was always a card and a gift on the kitchen table waiting for me when I came down for breakfast.)

He wasn’t a hugger, and he didn’t speak his love much, but his actions spoke volumes. I felt safe, secure and loved.

I’ve been wondering something lately…

When we read and hear the dogma about what parents should be, should do, should not do, etc., do we lose something precious and important by not rather focusing on and appreciating what our Moms and Dads did well? Does our “idea” of the “ideal” bring us into a continual state of disappointment to the point of dis-honor/anger/ & distance?

What if we step back a bit and take an honest look. If this were someone else’s parent, would we be jealous…as my friends were of me because my Dad was so predictable, available, and “protective”?

“Knowing what we are called to do is a greater blessing than striking it rich.” (Turning Point devo. 8/16/12)

My Dad knew he was called to be a single Dad when my Mom died…and he did it really, really well!

Thanks, Dad! You will always be my super hero. I miss you terribly.

 


Especially for Moms

In today’s broken world, women are longing for warm relationships. This study is designed to help us avoid being miserable comforters-like Job’s friends-and, instead, become “God with skin on” to others. Paul told Titus to train women so that they, in turn, could train others. Preparing women before they connect with one another leads to more supportive, grace-giving relationships. Verna equips women to minister to others by first helping us to:

  • Recognize it’s right to take care of ourselves
  • Identify and correct twisted thinking
  • Learn how to draw appropriate boundaries
  • Take steps to resolve conflicts
  • Know how to listen and ask helpful questions
  • Learn to communicate understanding

This dynamic study is offered to Moms as a virtual telebridge class, meeting for 15 weeks over the phone. In addition to the weekly virtual class sessions, there is a book and workbook, a private Facebook Group, and recordings of the classes.

Here are the details:

Mom-2-Mom
15 week virtual telebridge study.
Tuesdays, 6:30 – 8:00 p.m Central Time
August 7 – November 13, 2012

Cost: $47/month.

(There’s an early registration discount:
so…if you are registered by
August 2, it is only $37/month)

Here’s what one participant of the study said:

This is my first virtual book study, and I wasn’t sure how I would like it, but it has been absolutely great. Pam’s wisdom and gentle humor combined with Verna Birkey’s powerful book, “Women Connecting with Women,” are liberating me from self-sabotaging patterns I didn’t even know I had and empowering me with new insights into my relationships with other women. This is a study – the book, workbook, and my notes – that I will go back to for years to come. I would highly recommend doing this study with Pam Taylor at your first opportunity. It is an investment in yourself, your relationships, and God’s Kingdom that will bear fruit for eternity.

Susan Fleming
Winter Haven, Florida

The Book and Workbook Details:

Women Connecting With Women, by Verna Birkey – Equipping women for friend-to-friend support and mentoring.

You’ll need both the book AND the workbook, which can be purchased at this Amazon link (for under $30).

Questions? Email:  pam@loavesandfishescoaching.com
To register contact me here:  pam@loavesandfishescoaching.com

If you aren’t a Mom that could benefit from this study right now, please pass this on and bless someone you love… You might even consider gifting them the tuition or book!

And other participants said:

There is so much content to this study. Verna Birkey has the ability to educate the participant in an understandable manner and then offer stories to solidify the learning. The exercises in the book are very helpful. I learned a lot of very practical tools that I will be able to implement when the need arises! Thanks Pam!

Starr Benjamin

I love this study. It was meant for women, but it is true for everyone. I would recommend this study for EVERY woman, regardless of age. It will change the way you look at your world.

Tereasa Jones


Mom-2-Mom Parenting Tips

Mom-2-Mom Parenting Tips

Parenting is hard work! We all need a little help!

Visit www.loavesandfishescoaching.com/blog/ to begin receiving Mom-2-Mom “Ten Tips to Inspire You to Greatness” in your parenting. And then…every few days another word of encouragement will slip into your Inbox until you have received all ten.

(BTW, even dads have been helped by these tips.) 🙂

Awaiting His shout,

Pam Taylor

Christian Life Coach

The MomCourager(TM)

Filed under: MomCouragement — Tags: , , , — Pam Taylor @ 10:33 am

Mom-2-Mom – Sharing Wisdom

Hi, I’m so glad you are here!

This blog post was set up especially for subscribers to the Mom-2-Mom. Encouragement for the Family Series: Ten Tips to Inspire You to Greatness! (If you’re here but haven’t yet subscribed, but like what you see, just put your name and email in the form over on the right, and you’ll begin receiving the tips, too!)

We all know that we each are even greater in our parenting when we share our collective wisdom and our time-tested knowledge. Here is a place to share what you have learned for the benefit of the rest of us. You have “bragging rights” here! 🙂

At the bottom of each email in the series you’ll find a link here. We’re hoping you won’t just read what others have posted, but that you’ll visit often to share… adding your own comments and wisdom. We truly do all need each other!

So don’t wait – jump right in! The water’s fine. Scroll down and leave a comment or two. Blessings to you.

Until next time,
Mom-2-Mom,
Pam Taylor
Christian Life Coach

P.S. It would be helpful to put the Tip #at the beginning of your comment if it addresses a specific one. Thanks!

Filed under: MomCouragement — Pam Taylor @ 11:49 am

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