Pam Taylor - Christian Life Coach

Moms, Put on Your Oxygen Masks

To prepare the passengers in case of an emergency during flight, the directions from the flight crew include something like this: “Moms, put on your oxygen mask before putting on your child’s oxygen mask.”

Why do you suppose they do that? I’m thinking it is because they know that it goes entirely against a mother’s natural instinct.

For many moms, one of the hardest things about mothering is the taking care of yourself part. I know it was for me, and and I hear it from others, as well.

So, this post is to encourage you. Not to be selfish, but to be sure to take care of self-care. In order to be the best mom for your child, it is not selfish to give yourself a “time out” so to speak. To refresh your spirit. To put on your oxygen mask before attempting to care for your child.

I’m not talking about neglecting your child. I’m not talking about indulging yourself in selfishness. I’m talking about knowing what you need in order to be the best you can be. Different personalities need different things to be their best. So, know your personality type. Know your spiritual gifts. Know your worship style. Know what type of exercise strengthens you. Know when a short break for a glass of water or a bit of protein will help bring out the best in your mothering skills.  A Christian life coach can help you to pinpoint those areas that you may need to “tweak” a bit in order to put on your oxygen mask so you can be breathing well enough to then care for your child’s oxygen mask.

What are ways that you, Moms, put on your oxygen masks ?

Mothering is like a sisterhood. We like to encourage and help each other through to success. What have you done or what are you doing now? Or maybe you remember how your own Mom did that very well…

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Are You Headed in the Right Direction?

Are you headed in the right direction? Do you remember the Chariots of Fire movie? Do you remember the sister that believed in Eric Liddell the preacher, but tried to talk him out of running? Do you remember his comment to her when he tried to explain why he had to run? He said, “I feel His pleasure when I run.” When was the last time you felt His pleasure when you ran the course you are running now?

Are you headed in the right direction? In God’s direction for your life?

I just read a story about a wealthy 47-year old Austrian man. He had pondered his path and made a radical decision to give away his $4.7 million fortune.  Proverbs 4:23 reminds us to keep our heart with all diligence and verse 26 tells us to “ponder the path of your feet, and let all your ways be established.”  For the 47-year old, that meant the realization that “his wealth and lavish spending were keeping him from real life and happiness.”  He believed he had not been headed in the right direction, so he adjusted his course.

“Karl Rabeder told the Daily Telegraph (London), ‘I had the feeling I was working as a slave for things I did not wish for or need. It was the biggest shock in my life when I realized how horrible, soulless, and without feeling the ‘five-star’ lifestyle is.'” (Excerpts from Our Daily Bread devotional, August 22, 2011)

This courageous man now uses his money to fund charities he set up to help the people of Latin America. Do you think people that loved him misunderstood him? Criticized him? What about Eric Liddell (his biography is available in book form as well)? Do you think it was easy for him?

God sends each of us down a different path. He probably isn’t telling you to give all your money away. But maybe He is! If your heart is pounding, you might want to check in with Him on that one. 🙂  And He probably isn’t telling you to run a race rather than preach, like Eric Liddell, but maybe He is! You and He are the only ones that really know the answer to that question.

When was the last time you pondered the path you’ve taken? Is it time to make some adjustments? Are you headed in the right direction?

What are your thoughts about all this?  When was the last time you asked the Lord: Am I headed in the right direction? What would make You, Lord, the happiest? Am I using my gifts, talents, strengths, money, and time in the way You desire?

A few sessions with a Christian Life coach are a perfect place to go to sort out the answers to those kinds of questions. We are trained to help you look at where you are and where you want to be, for the purpose of working towards closing that gap between the two. We are a safe place to explore those tender places in your heart that are yearning for expression.

May He give you grace today to embrace His Word and follow Him with all your heart! 🙂

 


God Will Use the Loaves and Fishes You Bring to Him

Whether you discover your strengths through the Leading From Your Strengths assessment/consultation so you can move forward in new business start-up or a new blog start-up … or wherever you need a “cheerleader” to believe with you even when you forget your vision or hope or dream, let’s talk about how it can happen for you. God will use the “loaves and fishes” you bring to Him. I’m excited for all that God has in mind for you. God loves to show Himself strong in the lives of His children.  He likes to take the little we think we have and turn it into so much more than we could dream or imagine.

That’s the reason for Loaves and Fishes Life Coaching. The name came from the verses in the Bible where Jesus has been teaching the multitudes all day and they are hungry, so the disciples come to Jesus and ask Him what to do. They reason that it would cost a small fortune and a lot of precious time if they have to go into town and buy the huge amount of food that would be needed for such a great multitude.

Jesus response is the same thing He says to us: A sort of “What’s that you have in your hand?” He tells them the same thing he said to Moses when Moses thought the task was too big for him to do. Jesus calls us to tasks that are too big for us, but not too big for Jesus and us working together.

So, He tells the disciples to go and figure out what is already available. They come back to Him to say all they found is “five loaves and two fish”  (Mark 6:34) and so He has everyone sit down (maybe so they can all witness the miracle about to happen).

“And when He had taken the five loaves and two fish, He looked up to Heaven, blessed and broke the loaves, and gave them to His disciples to set before them; and the two fish He divided among them all.” (Mark 6:41)

Here’s the cool part: “So they all ate and were filled. And they took up twelve baskets full of fragments and of the fish. Now those who had eaten the loaves were about five thousand men.” (Mark 6:42-44)  Do you see that? 5,000 men ate and were filled…on five loaves and two fish!

That’s the cool part because that’s how God is with us, too. We think what we have is not enough; and then when we bring it to Him, He blesses it and multiplies it.  And many benefit from what we bring to Him for blessing.

God will use the loaves and fishes we bring to Him. Trust Him! But, the big catch is:  we have to BRING it to HIM. That means we have to choose to trust even if it is scary. Even if it seems dumb by the world’s standards. God’s ways are not the world’s ways. What is it you want to do? Start your own business? Start a blog? Learn what your strengths are and then how to implement them into your daily life? Simplify your life? Learn a new skill?

Bring what you have and watch what He can do!

 


Marathon Running

People that run marathons are a dedicated bunch. They train faithfully, in all kinds of weather…always with that focused attention to detail that produces “winners”. Some hire coaches to help them train and to endure to the end. Marathon running…it can be grueling before, during, and after the event. One friend actually lost a toe as a result of being determined to finish the race. She perservered in spite of the pain. Maybe even because of it. She had worked so hard to get to this point. She simply could not give up! Would not give up!

I know that the water stations along the way are like an oasis in the desert. Along with the refreshment of the water, they are also a place to receive encouragement to perservere. People cheer you on at these specially prepared refreshment stations. It is critical to be reminded of the goal to finish.

Time on this earth–as followers of Christ–can seem like running a marathon. It is critical to keep focused toward the goal. Christian Life Coaches often help people to hold their focus toward their goals: “Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead…the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:14). Paul also said in that same verse: “…but one thing I do…”

Is that the one thing we do? To press on with our eye toward the goal of spending eternity with Jesus? Is that our joy and focus? Do we love Him enough to go through the grueling training before, during, and after the event of “going home to be with the Lord”? Are we willing to lose a toe …or worse…in the process? Or are we distracted toward the worldly prizes more than the heavenly ONE? Do we try to take shortcuts because the training is so hard?!

Today is a new day! Let’s keep cheering one another on. This is a great day for a fresh start with a fresh perspective. Which marathon are YOU running? And which prize do you most value?

I’d love to hear from you. Have you done any marathon running? How have you found it to compare to the walk of a disciple of Christ?


Are You Flourishing?

Are you flourishing? I’ve been pondering that question the last few days after reading a quote in my Encounter With God devotional (published by Scripture Union). I encourage you to also take some time to ponder it.

“Flourishing is God’s gift and plan. When you flourish you are in harmony with God, other people, creation and yourself. Flourishing is becoming the person He had in mind in creating you.”
— John Ortberg.

Are you becoming the person God had in mind for you to be when He created you? You are not an accident or a mistake. He purposefully created you. And through your creation–in conjunction with your life experiences– He has been preparing you for what He has prepared for you to do.

One of my favorite things to do is to help people discover who they are and then move forward in their path toward flourishing “in harmony with God, other people, creation and yourself.”

Leading From Your Strengths assessments and consultations = one way God has used to accomplish that.

The Loaves and Fishes Coaching website will answer some of your questions. Then contact me for a FREE inquiry call. When you are ready, you’ll be amazed what freedom you will have from discovering how to answer “Yes!” to the question, “Are you flourishing?”

Also, you might want to go to LinkedIn to read some of the comments from people that know me.

Until then…

When you are ready…


Job Security? Or Are You In Chains?

How is being “wise and safe” in your job choice affecting you?

I had a job that simply was not a right fit for me. It taxed my very soul, and sucked the life out of me. Yet, I fooled myself into thinking it was “wise and safe” to stay there (e.g. regular salary & good benefits), even though people were often fired because of new management or reorganization or…whatever. In other words, it was not necessarily really “wise and safe”. It was not as secure as I pretended to myself.

Hours were added or dropped or schedules changed so frequently that it was a good idea to only “pencil in” your latest schedule in your calendar, so it could easily be erased. We had to punch in and punch out…docked if a few minutes late, but not paid for a few minutes overtime.

Don’t get me wrong. I was very grateful for a job, and I got along fine with my bosses, but it was not a good fit for me. It truly, literally sucked the life out of me. And I was often ill from the stress and lack of sleep because of the scheduling. Often working ’til 9 p.m. one night and having to be back and “punched in” and ready to work at 7 a.m. the next day. We never knew when the schedule would include weekends. That was ever changing as well. I was careful to work hard and to follow the rules, so I didn’t get fired, but I couldn’t SHINE there. Ever been there? Ever experienced any of those things yourself?

Why are we afraid to make the leap? To change? To do what we were created for? To do what we have dreamed of doing? Many times the people around us encourage us to be “wise and safe”, so we just stay put…miserable and weary. Sometimes we even give up and stop dreaming altogether.

Maybe there is another way. There was for me. There can be for you, too. Ever wanted to start your own business? Start up your own blog? But not knowing where to start, or maybe you have already started something you’ve always dreamed of doing, but you are lacking the support system to encourage you to keep going?

My coach helped me to prepare myself and to plan wisely…walking alongside me to help me keep my focus on my goal and not lose site of my dream.

Now…I am living my dream…in my own business, doing for others what my coach did for me.

Add to that, the Leading From Your Strengths profile consultation that helped me to be more settled in my spirit about my God-given Strengths, which made me even more confident that I am now right where I am supposed to be, doing exactly what I was created to do. Being now in that confidence is a very restful/peaceful place to be. You, too, can realize that in your life. But it takes the courage of taking that first step. In this case it is the inquiry call for more information.

So, are you ready? Just slide over to the left side of this page and look for “Topics”…and read some of the articles about coaching…and read more about the Leading From Your Strengths (LFYS) assessment process.

John Trent (co-creator with Rodney Cox) was recently on Focus on the Family, discussing Ministry Insights Leading From Your Strengths assessments. Prison Fellowship also uses the assessments.

Maybe it is time to realize being “wise and safe” is not necessarily wise and safe, but rather being stuck outside the realm of God’s best for you. Job security? Or are you in chains? Why not jump on board to discover what God had in mind when He created you, so you can move forward more confidently into all you were meant to be.

Scroll back up to the top of the page for more information and to get more of your questions answered. Contact me for the FREE inquiry call. Simply fill in the email contact form available by clicking on any of the pages of Loaves and Fishes Coaching website.


I Have A Dream…

I was just thinking that I haven’t reminded you lately on the blog that I am a Christian Life Coach, with a God-given passion to help others discover their God-given strengths and invest them fully for His glory. I have a dream..and it involves you!

Have you had a dream but not yet acted on it? What’s holding you back? Maybe you have always wanted to start your own business… or start your own blog? Maybe you long to change something in your life, but nothing you’ve tried so far has worked. Maybe you wonder why you do the things you do in the way you do them…or wonder what makes you “tick”/why you actually see things so differently than those that you live with, work with, worship & serve with?

A Christian Life Coach helps you hear more clearly what your heart is longing for you to understand and move forward on. A coach wants to walk with you through the journey of discovery and implementation.

And…a Christian Life Coach trained in Leading From Your Strengths assessment consultations, is a good place to start in your journey toward a more satisfying life. The assessment only takes about 10-15 minutes to complete, but the wealth of information obtained from the results of the profile is invaluable for anyone wanting to be all God intended. Then we set up a time for consultation. That takes it from merely information (head knowledge) to life change awareness (heart knowledge). It is an amazing resource to help you not only understand yourself more fully, but to understand others’ personalities as well. I have a dream…that you will experience the great value it will add to your life in better communication and more meaningful relationships. A freedom comes in the acceptance of God’s will in His choice for personality selection.

Everyone needs a “cheerleader” as you take the ball and run toward that goal line. We’ll look for mindsets that need a fresh look. Mindsets that could be keeping you from moving into your destiny…your God-given strengths, gifts, and talents. And…I have a dream that you will realize that God’s “design” for you was meant to bring you joy as you function fully in the personality and gifting that your Creator God personally chose for you. Because He loves you and He knows best!

So, let’s get started.


You Thought This Would Be the Year. (New Year’s Resolutions)

This is the time of year people tend to get discouraged because they had such hope that this would be the year that they would be successful with their New Year’s Resolutions. Yes, through mere determination, this year would be different. Does that sound like you?

There is a simple way to get on the road to where you want to be. Better yet—to get on the road to where God wants you to be. It is the road to what He created you for (to fulfill His purpose for you). That road also will be part of the discovery of what He created for you. Read on…

Moses had questions for God when God sent him out to rescue His people from Pharaoh. (Aren’t you glad that wasn’t YOUR assignment?) Do you remember what God said to Moses?

God said, “What’s that in your hand?” (Exodus 4:2 NIV)

That’s also what God says to each of us: “What’s that in your hand?”

Whatever you have been given by God—whatever unique strengths that He has chosen for you, He expects you to “sow” them right back into the world where you are right now. To use what is already in your hand.

So, tell me…”What is that in your hand?” God doesn’t wait for you to feel called. You already are called. Right where you are, right now. You don’t have to wait until He equips you. You already are equipped. (With your God-given, God-chosen just-for-you STRENGTHS.) Sound good? It gets better! God has already done the hard part. All you have to do is discover what He has already done in you.

You can be one of the many that are being blessed by discovering their uniqueness through the Leading From Your Strengths assessments. They are finally understanding why they do what they do, and why they act and react the way they do. AND why others act and react the way they way they do.

And they are also discovering it is all part of the Creator’s PLAN. Each person’s uniqueness is not an accident.  Wouldn’t you like to be one of those people that are finding joy & fulfillment & purpose through this discovery process? It’s not a pie-in-the-sky by-and-by dream. It can be a current reality for you. Maybe it will even help you understand why those New Year’s Resolutions that sounded so good, really were good ideas, but needed tweaking so they would fit your God-given design in a way that you could actually follow through and feel the joy of success. I’d love to walk the journey of discovery with you.

For more information, there are 4 other blog posts on this topic at www.loavesandfishescoaching.com

Through Leading From Your Strengths assessments, it is possible to find the pieces of the puzzle you have been missing. You will be blessed. And refreshed.

And, maybe you were right after all when you thought this would be the year. Questions? Contact me at http://www.loavesandfishescoaching.com/contact.php and we can arrange the assessment/debrief, so that when God asks you, “What’s that in your hand?” you will know the answer without a doubt!


For the Answers to: Who Am I? Who Are You? Why Do We Do the Things We Do? Part IV of IV

We’ve been on a journey together these last weeks, discussing Who Am I? Who Are You? Why Do We Do the Things We Do? We have finally arrived at the destination of discussing a resource that has been personally life changing. This resource has been instrumental as one more step to take me from where I am to where I want to be.  It is one more step to bridge the gap between the two. That’s why I want to tell you about it! It works well with the coaching model of helping people to reach their goals. And, for the Christian, this resource is a breath of fresh air because it uses Biblical principles to help each of us to discover our unique God-given design, so we can be the best “me” we were meant to be.

This resource is not a talent assessment, nor a spiritual gifts assessment, nor an assessment to help you discover your passion. We use other resources to help in those areas. This resource is to help you discover your Natural Strengths (what you are naturally) as well as your Adapted Strengths (what you present to your world). The Leading From Your Strengths assessment only requires a few minutes to take it online. And yet, from your responses, we discover wonderful things about your personality. It is helpful for understanding how you interact with others and why they may perceive you differently than you perceive yourself. It is valuable in helping you to accept who God made you to be so you more effectively move forward in your strengths.  But…the BEST part about this assessment is that it also helps you accept how God designed other people in your world. It is a tool you can use in order to learn how to work together more effectively with your world…and with less stress.

What a gift Rodney Cox and John Trent gave the world when they collaborated on the development of these assessments! Amazing! Freeing! Encouraging! Body(of Christ)-building. Team building. Marriage building. Family building. It is not “my” strength. It is not “your” strength. It is “His” strength…given for the Body of Christ. The Holy Spirit of God empowers us to work within our strengths, in order for His light to shine through us, so that above all things, He will be glorified. But, we have to KNOW those strengths. And we have to embrace them. And we have to embrace the strengths of others.

In their book, Leading From Your Strengths, Building Close-Knit Ministry Teams, John Trent & Rodney Cox say: “In I Corinthians 12:18 the apostle Paul concludes his discussion of how God’s people are like members of a body by stating, ‘But now God has placed the parts, each one of them, in the body just as He wanted.’ We believe that is also absolutely true today. The group of people you are working with isn’t the result of a random coincidence. Those people you’re working with are part of God’s story for your life. That is an amazing thing to think about in itself. It ‘s also why investing time in building a healthy, functional, effective, empowering team is essential, not optional.”

These four blog posts have attempted to guide you to find the answers for: Who Am I? Who Are You? Why Do We Do the Things We Do? To know your strengths is not boasting. The more we step into our God-given strengths, the more we will realize that He has given us what we need to do what He designed for us. Do you think you don’t have what it takes money-wise or time-wise? When Moses questioned his God-given strengths in Exodus 3 and 4, God replied, “What is that in your hand?” Discover what God has placed in YOUR hand. (Your strengths.) Take the assessment for yourself.  For more information, go to: http://www.loavesandfishescoaching.com/contact.php

For less than the cost of an oil-change and fill-up of gas, or the cost of dinner for two at a nice restaurant, you could have a whole new perspective on life and purpose.

What is that worth to you to be more fully you? (Your God-intended you.)

Do you think you don’t have the time? By simply skipping one of your favorite TV shows, you could free-up time to take the Leading From Your Strengths assessment and debrief consultation with an experienced life coach. It could be a new beginning for you….like it has been for so many others. What is that worth to you? For only $149, this could be the start of something new and fresh in your life.

What are you waiting for? Let’s get started!  http://www.loavesandfishescoaching.com/contact.php


Who Am I? Who Are You? Why Do We Do the Things We Do? Part III of IV

Be sure to read Part I and Part II of this series. We learned that conflict comes when we don’t accept that we are all different by design, but rather we fight it and have difficulty understanding why others don’t view the world through the same “glasses” we do. So, who am I? Who are you? And why do we do the things we do?

It is easy to think that other people are “vision” impaired when they differ in the way they solve problems, process information, manage change, or face risks. This plays itself out in our closest relationship teams, whether in family, at work, or in the church. Is there any hope for something better? Yes, I believe there is. We don’t have to settle for mediocrity! Will it take work? Yes, it will. Will it take time? Yes. And patience as well. According to Ministry Insights, there are 384 distinctive personality styles. The Leading From Your Strengths Personality Assessment is a tool to help us first understand our God-given design, leading us to then accept the God-given design of others. This gives us the freedom to encourage others to embrace their own God-given design. Their strengths, in other words.

Since most of our life is spent working in a team of some sort, God has given us our strengths for the benefit of the “team”. We are needed. We are a necessary part of the team. Created by Him and for His purposes. Different, yes. With a natural set of strengths that He personally handpicked for us. We are called to love the Lord with all our heart & soul, mind & strength. If we don’t even know and accept our strengths and the strengths of those around us, how can we love Him fully? On the other hand, by accepting, loving, embracing, and using our strengths for the good of others, we delight the Lord God Almighty…the Creator. This is good, acceptable, and pleasing to our Heavenly Father.

Christ is in us—directing us to live a life worthy of our calling and giving us the power to do that. Each of us has a solution for a certain need in the world. He chose our personality and prepared works for us to do.

It is not “my” strength to do with as I please, but “His” strength…given for the Body of Christ. The Holy Spirit of God empowers us to work within our strengths, so that His light will shine through us. Therefore, above all things, He will be glorified. So, the answer to: Who am I? Who are you? Why do we do the things we do? = We were created to bring glory to the Lord God Almighty. So…we have to know those strengths and actually embrace them as strengths. As a gift. Many of us “fight” who we are and wish we were different. Embracing our strengths pleases the Father God.

God created us to work in community, whether at work, at church, in our hometown, or in the family. We also need to know and embrace our differences. It is all about working well together as a team. It’s not about “me”, but it is about “us”. How can we bring out the best in each other? Our specialized differences make the Body (the Team) work the way it was meant to. The differences are then seen as a good thing.

Wouldn’t you like to know more about how to embrace this fresh approach to our God-given design? Ministry Insights, Leading From Your Strengths assessment is one of the best tools I have experienced personally. It has changed my view of myself and my view of others. I am free-er! Want to know more? Stay tuned for Part IV of this series. You will learn how to make this a reality in your own life and in the life of the teams where you live out your life story.

This has been Part III of four parts to discovering: “Who Am I? Who Are You? Why Do We Do the Things We Do?” Watch for Part IV coming soon! J


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